"You are worth more than who you attract."
She says yes, she’s a whore. She says maybe, she’s a tease. She says no, she’s a prude bitch. In what scenario do women win?
That’s just it; patriarchy is designed so that we don’t.
|—||Mary Pipher, Clinical Psychologist and Author, Reviving Ophelia (via sunshine-machine)|
My neighbors across the lot keep leaving their garbage right BESIDE the dumpster instead of taking the effort to throw it in. I want to confront them but uggggh it won’t do anything :(
Last time we actually went and threw the huge amount of boxes he left into the garbage so I wouldn’t have to stare at it and get angry about it every time we left the house.
So next time I see him doing it, I plan on recording it, and recording him walking into his house so I can take it to our rental company and see if they can do anything about it. I’m sure if I say anything now, it’s just a my word vs. his and I don’t really want to deal with a confrontation without proof.
Like we all have to fucking live here, why not make it a little more livable for everyone else and actually deal with your garbage properly.
This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works.
|—||Of course all men don’t hate women. But all men must know they benefit from sexism (via brute-reason)|